Helpful Resources

Here is a list of resources that may be useful as you deal with end of life choices for yourself or for someone else. They are not listed in any order of priority. I used many of them.


  • Project MUSE – Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics

    In the summer of 2016, the National Inquiry of Bioethics (NIB) published an issue that included much information on Voluntary Stopping Eating & Drinking (VSED). Phyllis is one of the people who had an article published. You’ll find interesting and useful perspectives in this issue. Click to open the contents of what is available.

  • End Of Life Washington (previously known as Compassion & Choices of Washington)
    This was my source for guidance and information when my husband was seeking information about the Death With Dignity Act and information about VSED (voluntary stopping eating and drinking). The Washington Death With Dignity Act went into effect on March 5, 2009. Compassion & Choices of Washington has an excellent Advance Directive and also an Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia Mental Health Directive. See the “quick links” on the Compassion & Choices of Washington website. Some other states also recognize and accept these documents. Click to see Robb Miller’s discussion about the End of Life Washington Health Directive and Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia Mental Health Advance Directive.
  • Compassion & Choices (the national organization)
    This is an end-of-life information center. It is also dedicated to getting the Death With Dignity Act passed in as many states as possible in USA. The Death with Dignity Act allows terminally ill adults seeking to end their life to request lethal doses of medication from medical and osteopathic physicians. These terminally ill patients must be USA residents and have less than six months to live and be mentally competent.
  • Heartworks is a company started by Trudy James.
    She produced a documentary film Speaking of Dying.” This excellent half-hour documentary is about choices in dying. I was interviewed for this film. This is useful for any family, doctors, lawyers, therapists, social workers, etc. Purchase it at Trudy conducts end of life planning groups. She does personal consultation and holds retreats. My husband and I consulted with her before he died.
    To contact Trudy, visit
  • End of Life University:
    Started by and facilitated by Dr. Karen Wyatt, a retired hospice doctor, it provides resources and inspiration for many end of life issues. She interviews people online. Listeners can call in with questions, listen live, or listen at their convenience.I was interviewed online twice by Dr. Karen Wyatt. She interviews an array of professionals at least twice per month about different end of life issues. This is a very rich resource.

The first interview was about Alan’s and my personal story and how we navigated his illnesses and choices.

End of Life University (EOLU) – first interview with Dr. Karen Wyatt. March 2014


On this second interview, Dr. Karen Wyatt interviews me and Arline Hinkley from End of Life Washington. The conversation centered around the Death With Dignity Law, and perspectives about the right to die and physician aided dying.

End of Life University (EOLU) – second interview with Dr. Karen Wyatt. October 2014


In this 30 minute interview, Dr. Karen Wyatt interviews Phyllis as they talk about Phyllis’ story and new book, “Choosing to Die.”

End of Life University (EOLU) – third interview with Dr. Karen Wyatt. April 2017


    This information originated from the Hemlock Society, but that is not what it is called now. You can find the digital version of the book “Final Exit.” This is not about the Death With Dignity (DWD) option or voluntarily stopping eating and drinking (VSED).
  • A Sacred Passing, a death midwifery service
    A Sacred Passing, is owned by Ashley Benem. Ashley owns a death midwifery service. Contact Ashley to learn about her pre-death and post-death, educational and supportive services at I hired Ashley and was extremely pleased with her services.
  • Death Knells, The Death of Fearing Death
    This site shares Death Knells to misconceptions about Death. Living beautifully and dying beautifully, our awareness expands, our essence ascends. And Death is embraced as Birth into new Life awareness.