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Rural Hospice That Spurns Federal Funds Has Offered Free Care for 40 Years

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Helping her father die at home “was the most meaningful experience in my nursing career,” said Rose Crumb. She went on to found Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County in Port Angeles, Wash. Dan DeLong for Kaiser Health News

 

The free services and four decades of expertise at the Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County are hard to beat.

Jonel Aleccia for NPR shares the story of a unique and rare type of hospice care that can be found in Port Angeles, WA. Rose Crumb, a 91 year-old retired nurse, founded the Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County in 1978. Her commitment to the volunteer and donation-based structure for nearly 40 years has made the organization stand out in a sea of profit-driven, hospice corporations speckling the United States.

Crumb first found interest in easing the experience of dying people after reading “On Death and Dying” by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross when it was first published. Later, her father was diagnosed with lymphoma and Crumb found honor in helping him die at home. From then on, Crumb estimates that she has witnessed or helped ease the deaths of hundreds of people.

It is significant to point out the Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County accepts no federal funding or private insurance. They thrive on the work of 160 volunteers and just 10 paid staff. The organization has had its’ difficulties, especially in the early years, when volunteer hospices were not yet legally exempt from federal regulations. The legal fight to remain open with a small budget, volunteer staff, and flexibility of care was supported by the community and Rose Crumb’s son, a corporate lawyer. Recently, a corporate hospice moved in to the community and the competition has not deterred either organization. The free services and four decades of expertise at the Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County are hard to beat.

Port Angeles is a small, remote community in Washington State. The survival of this healthcare institution is inspiring. The citizens of Clallam County say they can keep better watch on the organization than federal regulations and that it wouldn’t be in operation today if there was neglect or abuse.

Today, Rose Crumb is in her 90’s and experiences some of the health problems with which she helped so many people cope. She says she is ready for hospice and has all her paperwork to ensure her death is how she wants it.

“Go Wish”: The Game that Sparks Important End-of-Life Discussions

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The value of Go Wish lies in the consideration and
conversations that it intends to inspire.

Dr. Jessica Zitter writes about the importance of sharing/teaching end of life information with younger
people. She has started to go into high schools to do this. Whenever I have younger people in my
audiences when I present, I make a point of talking with them afterward. They are quite comfortable
with the information. They don’t want people their families or friends to suffer at the end of life.

Go Wish is a card game that broaches difficult questions about end of life and what is most important to
the participants. Created by the Coda Alliance, a community-based, non-profit organization that
promotes the planning and preparation for the individual’s ideal death, Go Wish has a simple but
effective construct. Each card presents a statement related to end-of- life decisions and it is up to the
individual player to sort it into piles based on importance. For example, statements written on the cards
may include “To have my family with me”, “To have a nurse I feel comfortable with”, “To take care of
unfinished business with my family and friends”. The value of Go Wish lies in the consideration and
conversations that it intends to inspire.

Considering one’s own death is daunting, maybe frightening, and often avoided. However, Go Wish
encourages each participant to reflect on their own priorities and needs, and comfort zones. By openly discussing the topic, the intention is that participants will feel less anxiety having
taken the time to deliberately contemplate and record their most important values at the end of life.
The conversations between family members and friends that follow will ease the minds of those who
may someday be placed in a position to help their loved one at the end of life.

Decks of Go Wish cards are available for purchase (in multiple languages) and to play for free on their
website, www.gowish.org ! When playing the free game alone online, it is even possible to print a copy
of how you sorted each statement by importance. You can then keep it in your personal important files,
and share it with family and friends. Visit their website for testimonials and examples of how to use the
cards to spark conversations about end-of- life decisions, options, and values!

Brittany Maynard’s Widower Continues Fight for Her Legacy.

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  Medical aid-in-dying, just as with VSED (Voluntary Stopping and Drinking), is a choice made by those who want to live but instead, after understanding they have no curative options, then choose between two different types of death.  

It was heartwarming to personally talk on the phone with Dan Diaz not too long ago. Both of us are working to uphold the legacy of our loved one who died. Dan’s wife, Brittany, died by taking advantage of the Death With Dignity law. She had to move to Oregon to do this. My husband, chose to VSED (Voluntarily Stop Eating and Drinking) so he did not have to live into the late stages of Alzheimer’s.

Read this article to learn more about Brittany Maynard and Dan Diaz. Brittany was 29 when she was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. She had exhausted all of her options for treatment, including an eight8 hour brain surgery. The tumor would not stop growing and she was determined to have six months to live. Brittany and her husband made the choice to move to Oregon where it was legal to experience gentle, medical aid-in-dying. She chose to die on November 1, 2014. Since that day, her husband Dan continues to share his personal story and tirelessly pursues politicians in every state, imploring them to vote in favor of medical aid-in-dying legislation like Death with Dignity. He carries on his late wife’s story so that others may benefit from the same gentle death she experienced.

Dan Diaz makes a point of distinguishing the importance of terminology. This is not “suicide”. Medical aid-in-dying, just as with VSED (Voluntary Stopping and Drinking), is a choice made by those who want to live but instead, after understanding they have no curative options, then choose between two different types of death. Diaz continues his fight to legalize medical aid-in-dying because he wants others to legally have that choice in the face of impossibly difficult decisions.

When New Cancer Treatments Do More Harm Than Good

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 Like many people in his shoes, my father opted to try the new drug because he thought it might help. It was expensive, but his insurance would cover it, and the high price seemed to suggest it was special. It was also better than doing nothing.  

Cary Gross, professor and cancer researcher at Yale University School of Medicine,  writes a personal opinion piece for the Washington Post. Gross’ life work is to study whether new cancer treatments that are successful in small trials will be therapeutic in routine clinical practice. His 80-year-old father, diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Disease, was offered and took the opportunity to try a new cancer treatment drug, despite the limited research data available and the high cost.

“Like many people in his shoes, my father opted to try the new drug because he thought it might help. It was expensive, but his insurance would cover it, and the high price seemed to suggest it was special. It was also better than doing nothing.”

Gross’ continues to explain the nuances of cancer treatment drug trials. The Food and Drug Administration approved of this specific treatment with only 100 patients studied. More often than not, these drug trials are also performed on younger, healthier adults whose bodies simply respond differently than one of an 80-year-old. In fact, his father experience further debilitation as a result of the side effects of the new cancer treatment. Unable to walk and bedbound, he was in a rougher shape than when he has started.

Cary Gross explains that the government regulations are about to be loosened by President Trump in order to support pharmaceutical companies.

“The 21st Century Cures Act has already created a pathway for companies to obtain FDA approvals with less rigorous evidence. At the same time, large funders of research that study the safety and effectiveness of drugs, such as the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality and the Patient-Centered Outcomes Research Institute, face uncertain futures in the current Congress.”

Cary Gross ends by strongly stating that people deserve more treatment options and focus should be placed on creating more possible, available cure for diseases. However, prioritizing research and the effectiveness of such drugs is necessary. Evidence-based treatments must become available so that they no longer do more harm than good.

Here is another recent podcast with Death by Design

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The concept of “Death by Design” is to inspire individuals and their families to create a blueprint for an inevitable journey that reflects the beauty of life and the positive destination of end of life.

Episode 32: Phyllis Shacter, Author/ Advocate of VSED

Each of these podcasts have felt very unique because the interviewers have been asking me different questions. Here is the info to the Death by Design podcast I did last week. I hope you enjoy it.

August 03, 2017 – Death by Design podcast: Episode 32: Phyllis Shacter, Author/ Advocate of VSED. Applying her vast experience as a storyteller to her passion, Kimberly C. Paul is radically changing the way people face end of life. The concept of “Death by Design” is to inspire individuals and their families to create a blueprint for an inevitable journey that reflects the beauty of life and the positive destination of end of life.

 

 

Choosing to Die | VoiceAmerica

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Phyllis Shacter’s husband made a series of radical choices about how his life would end. When he received two life limiting diagnoses within six weeks of each other, Alzheimers and cancer, he refused cancer treatment and employed natural methods instead.

See the link below for my live interview with Cheryl Jones on a program called “Good Grief” on voiceamerica.com, Wed., July 26, 2017, at 2:00 pm PST. I look forward to sharing my transformative journey through the grieving process. You can listen live, and it will be available afterward also.
It was not an easy journey to be an advocate for my husband when he decided to VSED (Voluntarily Stop Eating and Drinking) so he didn’t have to live into the late stages of Alzheimer’s. I dove deep into the grief, and over time this grieving energy transformed. My husband achieved his wish to not suffer through the late stages of Alzheimer’s, and over time, I became “free” again, feeling joy and gratitude for the gift of life.

Source: Choosing to Die | VoiceAmerica

We’re Bad at Death. Can We Talk?

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“Patients who engage in advance care planning are less likely to die in the hospital or to receive futile intensive care.”

Dhruv Khullar M.D. writes a moving piece for The New York Times about why it is important to have deep meaningful conversations about end of life before it is too late to do so. It has been increasingly acknowledged that many Americans would rather not go through intensive care and excessive hospitalization at the end of their life. It is not even clear that the aggressive medical care allows people to live any longer than if they choose not to go through it. The two things that have the biggest impact on improving end of life for individuals is “earlier conversations about their goals and greater use of palliative care services”. Unfortunately, people often put off these discussions until it is too late. Khullar explains that “Patients who engage in advance care planning are less likely to die in the hospital or to receive futile intensive care.” This is important because according to a 2011 Public Opinion report by the Center to Advance Palliative Care “the vast majority of patients say they would want palliative care for themselves and their family members if understood as an ‘extra layer of support’ during serious illness.”

It is important for people to understand what palliative care is. An improved definition has been described as “specialized medical care for people with serious illnesses. This type of care is focused on providing patients with relief from the symptoms, pain, and stress of a serious illness – whatever the diagnosis. The goal is to improve quality of life for both the patient and the family. Palliative care is provided by a team of doctors, nurses, and other specialists who work with a patient’s other doctors to provide an extra layer of support. Palliative care is appropriate at any age and at any stage in a serious illness, and can be provided together with curative treatment.”

There seems to be a disconnect with what physicians tend to view palliative care as and what it really is. Many physicians tend to view it as synonymous with end-of-life care. This leads to certain patients not receiving the care they require because the illnesses may not be traditionally thought of as terminal, such as kidney failure (117,000 reported cases in 2013 in U.S., 89,000 die annually), or chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (15.7 million people currently diagnosed in U.S and was the 3rd leading cause of death in 2014 ). “Palliative care, with its focus on symptom control and holistic well-being, should be considered at any stage of a serious illness – not just at the end. Its use should be driven by patient need, not disease prognosis.”

Physicians and the public should understand that palliative care can be combined with treatment of a disease. We should all be more knowledgeable about these choices and understand there are options for people with serious illnesses. According to research done by the American Medical Association when having conversations about terminal illness nearly 70% of physicians] say they haven’t been trained to have this conversation and about half say they often feel unsure of what to say when discussing terminal illness.”

This needs to change. My husband and I came across this issue when he was diagnosed with both Alzheimer’ and laryngeal cancer, only six weeks apart from one another. End of life issues were never brought up. It was as if our doctors thought we had no choice. The neuro-psychologist said he had about three months of mental competency left and that we should get all our affairs in order. The throat surgeon said he had to have three invasive surgeries on his throat or else he would die a painful death within six to twelve months. That was the extent of our conversation with these professionals.

Interviewed on Podcast “Death Hangout”

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Recently, I was interviewed by two wonderful men on “The Death Hangout.” This is a very creative podcast that interviews people about issues that surround death and dying. They told me they were reluctant to interview me at first because of the unusual nature of my topic – VSED (Voluntarily Stopping Eating and Drinking).

Take 30 minutes and watch this interview. Because of their honesty and excellent questions, this turned out to be one of the best interviews that I’ve had. Clearly, the two men who interviewed me had a good time too!

I not only talk about the VSED experience with Alan. I talk about conscious dying, how Alan found peace and prepared to die. I talk about my own fear of death and where it came from and how I’ve overcome it. It is a life-giving interview!

This is a podcast that originates in Europe. During the interview, Olivier was in Paris; Keith was in Ireland, and I was in Bellingham, WA.

Enjoy this. Share it with others. Thank you!

Phyllis

Legality Surrounding the Choice to VSED

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Death and dying feels like a messy matter at times. If we haven’t come to terms with our mortality, how can we even begin to think about and exercise our choices.

It is complicated and often intense to think ahead of time about how we want to die. Considering our choices requires deep introspection. For example, VSED is a complicated choice and it requires sufficient support. First the individual has to determine if it is right for him or her. Then loved ones have to support the individual’s decision. It takes time and effort to communicate with medical and legal people to ensure that everything will be carried out properly.

In this blog, I want to focus on the legal issues. I highly recommend that someone who is considering VSED consults with an elder law attorney. Do this well in advance. Not all elder law attorneys will be comfortable with or knowledgeable about VSED. We were fortunate to have a forward thinking elder law attorney. She knew much more about VSED than an estate planning attorney or a family law attorney.

The elder attorney will draw up documents to ensure that your wishes are followed and are within the realm of the law. In our case, my husband had his Health Directive that was filled out and updated as needed. Because he had Alzheimer’s and was still mentally competent, he filled out the Alzheimer’s Advance Mental Health Directive. This can be found on the End of Life Washington website. It is excellent, and it often requires the assistance of an elder law attorney.

My husband was certain that he wanted to avoid ever living in a dementia facility, but he only had so much control. If he landed in a dementia facility, however, we had already talked about our financial assets with our elder law attorney so that there would be money to take care of him and also money left for me. It can be very complicated. The Alzheimer’s Directive also covers decisions involving day to day choices about where someone would like to be treated and cared for. Different scenarios and options are covered in this fine Directive.

Here is a link to the Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia Mental Health Advance Directive.

Many people ask me about the legality of VSED. Yes, it is a legal option in the United States. I strongly encourage you to look at the white paper written by Thaddeus Pope and Lindsey Anderson called “Voluntarily  Stopping Eating and Drinking: A Legal Treatment Option at the End of Life. It was this document that convinced my husband to VSED.

Another document that our elder law attorney drew up was a document to eliminate risk to the caregivers, the doctor and myself. I also filled out a similar document. Both were witnessed and notarized.

So, there is lots to think about. I encourage you to read my book, Choosing to Die. All the details are covered in the book. It is both a memoir and a guidebook.

We’re Not Too Young

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As newly weds it was important to have a discussion about what matters most at the end of life so we can make the right decisions for each other when the time comes

I hope that someday everyone fills out a health directive when they become an adult at 18. Our parents are legally responsible for us in the United States until then. At 18 ideally everyone should fill out a health directive. If you don’t do this and you are in an accident or get a terminal disease doctors and hospitals have a the legal right to make all decisions for you. Your health directive ensures that your loved ones will be able to represent you and your wishes. I filled out my first health directive when I was 40. I still didn’t believe I was going to die someday. I know It is challenging to think about a health directive when you think you are immortal. They vary from state to state, but what is important is what you write. Nevertheless, we are all going to die and we all want to have a good death. We are all familiar with death and through figuring out what what state we want to live into is something only you can decide. That is why preparing is important even when we are young and do not think about death.

A touching story of two Newlyweds