We’re Not Too Young

As newly weds it was important to have a discussion about what matters most at the end of life so we can make the right decisions for each other when the time comes

I hope that someday everyone fills out a health directive when they become an adult at 18. Our parents are legally responsible for us in the United States until then. At 18 ideally everyone should fill out a health directive. If you don’t do this and you are in an accident or get a terminal disease doctors and hospitals have a the legal right to make all decisions for you. Your health directive ensures that your loved ones will be able to represent you and your wishes. I filled out my first health directive when I was 40. I still didn’t believe I was going to die someday. I know It is challenging to think about a health directive when you think you are immortal. They vary from state to state, but what is important is what you write. Nevertheless, we are all going to die and we all want to have a good death. We are all familiar with death and through figuring out what what state we want to live into is something only you can decide. That is why preparing is important even when we are young and do not think about death.

A touching story of two Newlyweds 

End of Life Choices Conversation Starter

It’s important to have many ways to initiate the conversation with your loved ones about your end of life wishes. Then they can be written into a formal Health Directive which is witnessed and notarized.

This is another tool to help you get started and stay on track!

As elders in our larger community, we have a responsibility to be role models for younger people. I feel this all the time in my own life. I’m aware of how keenly younger people want to know about aging and end of life issues.

http://www.aafp.org/news/health-of-the-public/20161205conversationstarter.html

End of Life Choices For Young People With Life Limiting Conditions

Many parts of Europe are far more enlightened about end of life choices and the compassion that surrounds it. It is horribly sad when we think about young people dying early in their life. Yet when this occurs, we want to have compassionate choice available to us. End of Life choices affect not only elder people but young people too. Below is a link to a full case study and guideline recommendations on how to deal with end of life care, compassion and choices with young people 0-17 with life limiting conditions. 

https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng61